Honesty, Is It Really the Best Policy?

For several days/weeks now I have seen quotes and memes that we should tell people how we feel about them. It seems the intent is tied in with love, be it romantic or platonic, gay or straight, Mono or Poly.

However I have found that most people cannot or will not handle such honesty., Frankly, people seem to be scared of love or, at the very least, opposed to such professions if it does not fit into their neat little idea of love, i.e I'm gay I can't love a straight person, I'm monogamous and I can't love or be loved by another.

It seems that every time I tell someone I have a crush ( no I don't so this often) on them they go dark and stop talking to me. There are folks that I really wish I could tell how I feel, but if they run from the term "crush" or the idea of going to a movie with me, their reaction to any romantic inclinations would not be favorable.

In theory, I am all for the idea as it seems to speak to my goal of being my authentic self. However, in practice, I have found this idea to have had less than pleasant reactions. YMMV

Suffering in Silence

I see the phrase a lot. It is meant to convey that some folk keeps there sufferings to themselves, usually folk that deal with depression, PTSD, Anxiety disorders or the like.

It has been my personal experience  that we do a lot more than suffer in silence. Whilst I do suffer in silence, I also love in silence, celebrate in silence, hope in silence.

Why do we choose to do these things, Basically, live our lives in silence? Forgive my raw honesty but we( some of us) feel that no one cares. Other times we feel that we do not want to be a burden on others, Thirdly, we don't want to be 'that person' you know the negative nelly. Your mileage may vary.

For personally, all of the above hold true for me. I am even reluctant to share my innermost feelings with those that I love. However, I am learning to 'detach' from the more toxic emotions by acknowledging, processing and letting go.

Now the reality is that I and others most likely don't have to do anything in silence. I have a support group of people that love me, that do not view me as a burden or a negative nelly, at times, though, it is hard to shut the assbrain down. It takes practice and determination (meds don't hurt, lol) to disregard the things assbrain has to say.

Stay caffeinated, my friends, Namaste!