Love Yourself!

Today I want to share some great words of wisdom from the late Dr. Wayne Dyer:

"If you’re not receiving the love you desire, it seems like a pretty good idea to explore what’s creating this state. Obviously, most of us want to place the blame for lovelessness on something external to ourselves. That’s a waste of time and energy, but it often feels good because blame seems to alleviate the pain, even if only briefly. However, blame energy only helps you remain out of balance, whether you’re blaming yourself or someone else. Being in balance is centered around the premise that you receive in life what you’re aligned with. By now, you must have read it enough times to know that I mean you get what you think about!
While you may justify your loveless state with thoughts of being unappreciated, or choose to see the whole world as an unloving place, the fact remains that you’re experiencing the imbalance of not feeling good because you don’t have enough love in your life. Waiting for others to change, or for some kind of shift to take place in the world to restore you to balance, won’t work without your commitment to take responsibility for changing your way of thinking. If that’s left to others, you’ll turn the controls of your life over to someone or something outside of you. And that’s a prescription for disaster. 
The point I want to emphasize here is that if feelings of being shortchanged in the love dimension are a part of your life, then it’s because you’ve aligned your thoughts and behaviors with lovelessness. How do you do that? By failing to match your desire for love with thoughts that harmonize with this powerful desire—for example: I’ve never been able to sustain a loving relationship. I’m not really attractive enough to have someone love me in the way I want to be loved. People are cruel and take advantage of me. I see hostility and anger everywhere. This is an uncaring world with a shortage of love. 
All of these thoughts (and others like them) create a point of attraction that’s way out of balance with a desire to receive abundant love. You attract into your life precisely what you’re thinking about, and you’ve inadvertently joined ‘Club Loveless’ with a membership that includes a majority of the entire population—that is, people who feel shortchanged about the amount of love that’s failing to pour into their empty hearts. All of this is reversible by shifting your alignment and removing the resistance to the fulfillment of your desire for love. You begin by ending your search for love. 
To balance your life with more lovingness, you need to match your thoughts and behaviors with those of your Source, being love in the way that God is. This means noticing when you’re inclined to judge yourself or others as though you or they are unworthy of love. This means suspending your need to be right in favor of being kind toward yourself and others, and deliberately extending kindness everywhere. This means giving love to yourself and others rather than demanding love. This means your loving gesture of kindness is heartfelt because you feel love flowing from within—not because you want something in return. A tall order? Not really, unless you believe that it’s going to be difficult. 
Lovingness is a feature of your natural state, and your ego isn’t part of that state. Ego dominates because you’ve separated yourself from your God-self, the loving self that came here from a place of perfectly Divine unconditional love. You’ve carried this ego idea of your own self-importance, your need to be right, for so long that you’ve deluded yourself into believing that the ego-self is who you are. Talk about being out of balance—you’ve opted for a belief in pure illusion! By allowing this illusion to be the dominant force, you’ve created, through your ego-centered self, a heavy imbalance in your life.” 
-Wayne